Today I wanted to talk about some traditions that we've all seen before. This post is for couples who are on the fence about either going with a tradition or trying something different and unique. These 10 broken traditions are just suggestions from what I've seen recently trending at a few of our weddings. As a bride and groom remember this is YOUR big day! There are no "rules" for a wedding - just as long as its meaningful for the couple getting married. Anything goes; Trust me.... We've seen it all!! Enjoy!
Tradition No. 1 All Bridesmaids Must Wear the Exact Same Dress
Not true! I have seen more and more brides get creative with this one. Anything from wearing the same dress but different colors to wearing all of the same dress and singling out the maid of honor. My absolute favorite trend now is letting your bridesmaids choose different dresses in the same shade. I think this is an absolute fabulous idea! Everyone is shaped differently and not everyone looks great in the same exact dress. I think it’s important for your ladies to feel comfortable. So pick the best option for them.
Tradition No. 2 Family Portraits
Ok I call dibs on breaking this tradition first! I heard about this idea last week and I've been dying to tell someone about it. Family portraits are dated. How many times have you heard the sentence: "your wedding day goes by so quickly". Well how long do you think family portraits take? Wouldn't you rather give a photographer a list of specific people you would like pictures with and let your photographer take pictures of you through the night naturally, then forcing your family members to stand outside in the heat for an hour or more. I think they much rather spend time with you during cocktail hour taking fun "candid" photos instead!!
Tradition No. 3 Garter Toss and Bouquet Toss
I’ve seen a lot of couples nix these two traditions. Yes - it can be very entertaining. But often you can leave your guest feeling a little awkward, depending on the age group. I’ve noticed that most couples recently have chosen not to do these two traditions because it singles out your single friends. Honestly, who wants to be reminded that they’re still single? If your stuck on whether to do it or not; look at your guest list. It all truly depends on how comfortable you are with your guest.
Tradition No. 4 Brides Guest on the Left and Grooms Guest on the Right
I honestly hate this rule. It’s completely normal to have an uneven guest count. And because of this, guest should be aloud to sit on either side they want. I once attended a wedding where the bride’s and the groom’s parents wanted to switch sides because they wanted to be able to see their child’s face during the ceremony. How sweet is that? I think that’s great! I’m in love with the saying "choose a seat not a side".
Tradition No. 5 Wedding Veil
This one I’m still unsure about. I love brides with veils and I love brides without veils. Once again, there is no rule stating that you have to wear a veil. The veil was originally designed to hide the brides face. But now days, brides are wearing them on the back portion of there heads or not at all. Either way is completely fine and completely up to you. I vote - pick whichever way complements your dress!!
Tradition No. 6 The Brides Family Must Pay the Bill
This is one tradition that I'm ready to see leave. I've asked a ton of people their opinion on this and I’ve come to a conclusion. I think it’s appropriate for anyone and everyone to foot the bill in whatever way they possibly can. I think it’s perfectly okay for both the bride and groom’s family to chip in and make it the best day possible for the happy couple. As a bride - you shouldn’t feel obligated to pay for everything by yourself if you don’t have the funds! It’s okay to have help from others!
Tradition No. 7 You Must Save the Top Tier of Your Wedding Cake
This one is new for me. If you haven’t heard of this tradition.... listen up. Traditionally, the bride and groom save the top tier of their wedding cake, box it up, freeze it, and eat it on their one-year anniversary. Ok - yes this is a really cute idea.... and surprisingly we know exactly how to wrap up your wedding cake without it getting freezer burnt. But we can’t promise it will taste as good as it did on your wedding day. I know I honestly would rather pig out with my hubby in the hotel the night of my wedding eating fresh wedding cake! Seriously, who wouldn't want wedding cake as a late night snack?
Tradition No. 8 Bride and Groom Must Remain Hidden
As a couple you must do what is more comfortable for you. I hear from a lot of brides that the "first look moment" is very personal. And they want this moment to be between the two of them. I honestly love seeing the first look happen. It really can tear you up. But - it is completely up to you and more and more brides are breaking this tradition.
Tradition No. 9 You Must Have an Equal Number of Bridesmaids as Groomsmen
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen couples breaking this rule. And why not? If your hubby wants one more of his buds in his wedding party.... Let him! Why stress over this? No one will even notice! Why exclude a close friend or include someone you don’t really want just to have symmetrical sides.
Tradition No. 10 The Rice Send-Off
We are not birds. Who thought it would be ok to throw rice at the bride and groom during the send off. I personally hate this idea. I’ve noticed this tradition has basically vanished. More and more brides are using a sparkler send-off instead. Lets be honest - what grown adult does not like playing with sparklers? Besides, the sparkler pictures at night are absolutely magical!